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What is your problem?

no@spam.com (Junior Wilson) — Thu, 10 Jan 2008 00:13:01 GMT

Ok we all have problems, but are they are ‘problems’? The term ‘problem(s)’ is a like a cheap get out clause. Some people crumble under different levels of 'problems' but remember one thing... ‘problems ‘are to be solved! – Simple as not if or buts.

People are like best friends when they can share problems and talk about problems, we have been programmed to relate to problems.

You switch on the TV, read the paper, search the net and the best sellers, the most engaging medium is the one with showcases problems.

It's like we want to mimic what the media shows, but at the same time feel safe. People I know either have a burning desire to do something but won't because they relate to the pit falls they see in the media or have a doomed perspective on life because in a twisted way it's comfortable.

Do away with ‘problems’ and do away with it fast and anyone who talks about ‘problems’ persistently, do away with them!

Help them yes, but you can only help so far as I said previously some people in their own twisted way are comfortable and no matter what you do or say will help, in fact they will more than likely cause you ‘problems’ and weigh you down.

So what is your problem?

Ask yourself is it a problem, is it your problem and the what hell can you do about it?

In life we face a situation, in fact we face thousands of situations in a day, the difference is some we deal with naturally. Example:

I jump in my car and drive to my destination because I have overcome the 'problem' of not being able to drive. Now someone who cannot drive obviously this is a problem, but I can go deeper, just because I can drive I still face the problem of getting to my destination and getting back.

I can tell people of my trauma stuck in traffic and use powerful negative sentences like 'I was stuck in bloody traffic today, it was a flipping nightmare and this guy tried to cut in front of me and I just hate it' straight away I have set the tone, set the mood, the vibe and then the person who I would say that to would agree and then relate... very similar to the Weather syndrome, here in the UK the weather is gloomy and you can strike up a negative conversation just based on the weather.

So do away with ‘problems’ and the next time you buck upon a ‘problem’ or if there is something you feel is a problem, take a step back and ask you self... what is my problem?

Its all a Matter of Perspective!

no@spam.com (Dionne Jude) — Thu, 19 Jul 2007 15:03:40 BST

Understanding that everything serves a purpose in life provides an opportunity to look at things differently.

A Challenge to Personal Challenges

no@spam.com (Dionne Jude) — Thu, 19 Jul 2007 14:56:34 BST

Personal challenges have a role to play in our life - who do you choose to be in the face of adversity?

The Law of Attraction... Is it all hype?

no@spam.com (Junior Wilson) — Wed, 18 Apr 2007 04:03:05 BST

There is so much going on everywhere about "Law of Attraction". Bob Proctor has made it so popular with his film – The Secret. The popularity is so huge that it was featured on several prominent TV shows – Oprah Winfrey, Larry King, Ellen Degeneres etc.

To move forward or not to move forward... that is the question.

no@spam.com (Junior Wilson) — Wed, 11 Apr 2007 06:39:16 BST

So your happy with your life, you go to work, come home everyday, maybe watch some TV, tidy the house, sort out the kids, the usual stuff, end of the month comes pay your bills, your life is comfortable. As long as nothing goes wrong, your usual routine should see you through life just fine. Banks love you because money is coming in regular, you might have a few credit cards, loans and mortgage, government love you because no matter what, you got to pay your taxes, so hey what the heck why set goals?

Simple ideas for Getting Motivated

no@spam.com (Junior Wilson) — Tue, 10 Apr 2007 10:34:16 BST

Some people believe that successful persons are made, not born. Yes, it is true that some people are born with natural talents, but there can be no true success without practice, without experience, and without - motivation. We all dream big dreams and have great ambitions. However, for many people dreams remain just that - dreams. They get caught up in the monotony of living from day-to-day, just barely existing, thinking about what ifs. For some people 1 knock back is enough to get de-motivated while for others, 10 knock back just fuels the motivation. There are many ways to get motivated and there are many ways to be demotivated, it all depends on what you are prepared to let your mind be exposed to.

Be prepared for the change

no@spam.com (Junior Wilson) — Fri, 06 Apr 2007 18:17:10 BST

Many of us stare success in the face... yet we do not grasp it... why? because we are not prepared. We cannot believe it can happen to us, we don’t know what lies ahead, so we are unsure of the unknown which we cannot see.

Open your mind to photoreading

no@spam.com (Junior Wilson) — Sat, 31 Mar 2007 14:37:12 BST

PhotoReading does not only help you excel at school or work by teaching you to ‘read smarter.’ More importantly, it helps open your mind so you can easily learn new skills (such as a language), improve your intuition, and even get better in sports. Here are just some of the many benefits of PhotoReading:

Have you got a professional coach for your business?

no@spam.com (Junior Wilson) — Sat, 31 Mar 2007 14:12:57 BST

In today's fast paced world, we are often confronted with the issue, "I want to get in shape, but I just don't have the time!" We all have faced it at one time or another. So, when we finally decide to get in shape we go to the gym, and then another decision hits us. Should you get a personal trainer? That would speed up the process, I mean, they have taken massive amounts of time to study the body, and know how best to work out without hurting yourself. They can help you with a proper diet, implementing exercise into your lifestyle, etc. Also, I do not know of a single professional athlete who does not have a coach or mentor…get the hint?

Your energy force can influence others

no@spam.com (Junior Wilson) — Sat, 31 Mar 2007 14:10:47 BST

You can make those that you come in contact with feel as you do, because you radiate vibrations of the way you feel and your vibrations are felt by others. When you concentrate on a certain thing you turn all the rays of your vibrations on this. Thought is the directing power of all Life's vibrations. Cultivate the art of feeling, for you can only make others feel what you feel. Hold only those mental states, which you wish other to take on.