Are you fed up of going no where in a job where you’re not happy? Are you working with people that you can't get on with? Well don't worry all you have to remember is that you have a secret weapon that can be used if you are willing to learn how to use it. I am sure you would agree with me that spending eight hours a day with someone who gets on your nerves can only have a negative affect on you and causes nothing but unnecessary stress. A few years ago if anyone or anything got on my nerves I would just leave,  if it was a job I would simply resign and I would have advised others to do the same. I would not do anything that an employer/customer asked me to do if I didn't want to or if I thought the request was to hard, as I saw this as a form of sucking up, all I can say is that I didn't know better,  I later found out that what I thought was sucking up was actually what is known as customer service. The thing to remember here is losers call it sucking up but winners call it making friends or making contacts.

Remember if you are in business you should be prepared to go out of your way to please the customer as this is the only way to be successful. A lot of the time we are only concerned about how much we are getting paid at the end of the month without thinking about the quality of service we have given to the customer and/or the employer.

Having said that, it is important to recognise that sometimes these people who seem to go out of their way to get on your nerves are actually suffering from attention depravation and/or low self esteem and in order to make themselves feel good they put others (including you) down by flexing their egotistical muscles. 

Imagine being able to put these people in their place, Imagine being able to control them in such away that you get what ever you want out of them while still making them feel they are in charge. I wonder if you would agree that the idea sounds exciting.

Here are 4 proven ways to do so (your secret weapon)

1) Put them in charge 

Have you ever wandered why some people seem to get whatever they want from the thier boss or from the office bullies.   Because they  want to believe they are in control all you really have to do is subliminally  slip words in during conversation that will make them feel like they are in charge,  this will have the affect of disarming them.  You will be feeding their ego, which in turn will enable you to  pull their strings much like that of a puppet even though they will still feel that they are superior to you. Try this and the effects will amaze you.

2) Ask for Advice

Everyone likes to feel valued so to win them over all you have to do is simply ask for advice. All you have to say is, "I need your advice on"..... or, "what do you think of"....... this really will make them feel valued, the fact that you didn't  actually need their advice only contributes to the beauty of the situation. Try this and watch them change their attitude and drop their guard.

3) Make them feel important.

Rather than complain about people who have huge egos you should try massaging it for them, try to identify something good about them then compliment them about it. This will make them feel important and because you are the person responsible for making them feel this way, you will gain a certain amount of control or power over this person

4) Allow them to talk about themselves

Most people especially those who are egotistical like taking about themselves, I remember being at a network event where  I made a conscious decision to listen rather than talk.   At the end of the evening a few people commented that I was a good conversationalist, the point here is they actually done all the talking. The point is If you give people a chance to get things off their minds and allow them to sound off they will end up feeling indebted to you.

Use this information wisely and you will rise to a position of power, your popularity will soar, your relationships will improve, those who criticise you will just continue to live their frustrating lives at the mercy of others.