Ok we all have problems, but are they are ‘problems’? The term ‘problem(s)’ is a like a cheap get out clause. Some people crumble under different levels of 'problems' but remember one thing... ‘problems ‘are to be solved! – Simple as not if or buts.

People are like best friends when they can share problems and talk about problems, we have been programmed to relate to problems.

You switch on the TV, read the paper, search the net and the best sellers, the most engaging medium is the one with showcases problems.

It's like we want to mimic what the media shows, but at the same time feel safe. People I know either have a burning desire to do something but won't because they relate to the pit falls they see in the media or have a doomed perspective on life because in a twisted way it's comfortable.

Do away with ‘problems’ and do away with it fast and anyone who talks about ‘problems’ persistently, do away with them!

Help them yes, but you can only help so far as I said previously some people in their own twisted way are comfortable and no matter what you do or say will help, in fact they will more than likely cause you ‘problems’ and weigh you down.

So what is your problem?

Ask yourself is it a problem, is it your problem and the what hell can you do about it?

In life we face a situation, in fact we face thousands of situations in a day,  the difference is some we deal with naturally. Example:

I jump in my car and drive to my destination because I have overcome the 'problem' of not being able to drive. Now someone who cannot drive obviously this is a problem, but I can go deeper, just because I can drive I still face the problem of getting to my destination and getting back.

I can tell people of my trauma stuck in traffic and use powerful negative sentences like 'I was stuck in bloody traffic today, it was a flipping nightmare and this guy tried to cut in front of me and I just hate it' straight away I have set the tone, set the mood, the vibe and then the person who I would say that to would agree and then relate... very similar to the Weather syndrome, here in the UK the weather is gloomy and you can strike up a negative conversation  just based on the weather.

So do away with ‘problems’ and the next time you buck upon a ‘problem’ or if there is something you feel is a problem, take a step back and ask you self... what is my problem?